MANAGING OUR ANGER

 

PURPOSE

 

In this study, we will explore the many aspects of anger.   

 

OPENER

 

When you express anger, do you do so inwardly or outwardly?

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What situations are most likely to arouse anger in you?

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LESSON

 

1.      FIRST, IS ALL ANGER WRONG AND SINFUL?

 

What type of emotion did Jesus display towards the Pharisees (Mark 3:1-6)?

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What is the difference between justified anger and unjustified anger?

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2.      SECOND, HOW SERIOUS IS UNJUSTIFIABLE ANGER?

 

According to Jesus, (Matthew 5:21-22), how serious is unjustifiable anger?

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3.      THIRD, WHAT TYPES OF ANGER ARE DESTRUCTIVE AND MANY TIMES HARMFUL?

 

a.      ANGER THAT PROMPTS US TO SAY HATEFUL THINGS TO OTHERS IS WRONG AND MANY TIMES DESTRUCTIVE.

 

According to Jesus, how destructive can words potentially be (Matthew 5:22)?

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b.     ANGER THAT IS NOT RESOLVED AND STILL LINGERS IN OUR HEARTS IS WRONG AND SINFUL.

 

According to (Ephesians 4:31), what types of things are we to get rid of in our hearts?

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4.      FOURTH, BELOW, ARE SOME PRINCIPLES TO CONSIDER ON HOW TO HANDLE ANGER CONSTRUCTIVELY.

 

a.      FIRST, BEFORE WE GET ANGRY, WE NEED TO ASK OURSELVES THIS QUESTION: "DO I HAVE A VALID REASON TO GET ANGRY?"

 

If we do not have a valid reason to get angry, then what are we to do (Proverbs 17:14; 19:11)?

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Tell us of a time when you dropped a potential angry situation and how it later worked out in your favor?

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b.     SECOND, IF WE HAVE A VALID REASON TO GET ANGRY, WE SHOULD GO TO THE PERSON WE ARE ANGRY WITH AND VERBALIZE OUR FEELINGS.

 

What does Jesus tell us to do when we are angry with others (Matthew 5:23)?

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Why should we resolve our conflicts with others?

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How long should it take to settle a dispute (Matthew 5:25; Ephesians 4:26-27)? 

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What type of attitude are we to have when striving to settle a dispute or an unpleasant situation (Proverbs 15:1)?

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What relational conflict do you need to straighten out today?

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c.      LASTLY, WE MUST FORGIVE THE PERSON WHO HAS MADE US ANGRY.

 

What can stand in the way of God's forgiveness (Mark 11:25)?

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Tell us of a time when you chose to forgive someone even though you felt that he or she didn't deserve it.

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CONCLUSION:

 

1.      Anger is a God given emotion that we all experience.

 

2.      Some anger is justifiable and some is not. 

 

3.      Unjustified anger is sinful and something that we need to stay away from.

 

a.      Anger that prompts us to say hateful things to others is wrong and many times destructive.

 

b.  Anger that is not resolved and still lingers in our hearts is wrong and sinful

 

4.      How can we handle anger constructively?

 

a.      First, before we get angry, we need to ask ourselves this question; "Do I have a valid reason to get angry?"

 

b.      Second, if we have a valid reason to get angry, we should go to the person we are angry with and verbalize our feelings.

 

c.      Lastly, we must forgive the person who has made us angry.

 

5.      God bless you and have a wonderful angry free life.

 

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