In this study, we will
explore the many aspects of grief.
Tell us of a time when you experienced
grief. How did you feel?
WHAT IS GRIEF?
- Grief is an overwhelming feeling of sorrow,
pain, regret, and sadness. We feel
as if our hearts are broken—that nothing will ever be the same—that
happiness will never be possible again.
Grief is a normal response to the loss of any significant person,
object, or opportunity.
WHAT ARE SOME CIRCUMSTANCES THAT CAUSE GRIEF?
- Death of a close relative or friend.
NAME SOME BIBLE CHARACTERS WHO EXPERIENCED GRIEF.
- In the Bible, we read of several people who
experienced grief. In (Genesis
50:1) we read that when Joseph’s father, Jacob, had died, Joseph “fell
upon his father’s face and wept over him and kissed him.” Joseph was hurting inside at the death
of his father. In (John 11:35) we
read that Jesus wept over his friend Lazarus who had died. As we can see, grief is a normal
response to the loss of any significant person, object or opportunity.
HOW IMPORTANT IS IT TO GRIEVE?
- A grieving person must allow him or herself to
face and experience his or her grief in order to begin the journey toward
healing. Grief is necessary. It is a prerequisite to healing. Jesus once said, “Blessed are those who
mourn, for they shall be comforted” (Matthew 5:4). According to this verse, there must be
a time of mourning before a person can experience comfort. If you are in a situation that is
causing you grief, you must allow yourself time to mourn and grieve.
Joseph knew the importance of the grieving process. When his father died, he didn’t rush
himself, nor did he deny his feelings.
In fact the Bible says that Joseph and the Egyptians mourned for 70
days (Genesis 50:3).
How long does grief last?
- It could take months, years, or possible a
person may never fully get over the death of a loved one.
LIST SOME OF THE STAGES OF GRIEF.
- When people grieve, they normally go through
many stages--but not necessarily in this order.
- SHOCK--Shock is a numbness or feeling of
unreality. This is generally the
first stage of grief that a person goes through just after the death of a
loved one. Fortunately, this stage
does not last very long.
- DEPRESSION--Depression is the stage when you may
not want to go anywhere, see others, or engage in normal activities. During this stage, guilt normally
enters into the picture. You start
saying, “Why didn’t I…?"
"Why did I…?"
"Or If only I had…”?
- ANGER AND ANXIETY--When it becomes too painful
to feel the hurt, you get mad instead.
You may get mad at the person who died. You may get mad at yourself for things that you shouldn’t
have said. You may even get mad at
God (Psalm 13).
- ACCEPTANCE--This is the stage where healing
beginnings. You stop living in the
past, as though the person was still a part of your life, and you decide
to begin a new chapter in your life.
You don’t dismiss the memories or feelings that you had for the
person. You simply choose to go on
with your life.
HOW CAN WE HELP OTHERS WHO ARE GRIEVING?
- During times of grief, most people don’t
remember the words you say to them.
But they do remember if you were there. Never underestimate the power of your presence with someone
in his or her time of grief. Be
there. You will never know how
much that will mean to them.
- One of the best things you can do for a person
who is grieving is to simply listen.
A grieving person needs to talk about the feelings that he or she
is experiencing, the details of the death and funeral, and the past
memories of the deceased.
GOD’S WORD TO COMFORT.
- Never tell a grieving person that it was God’s
will that the deceased was taken.
It minimizes a person's death.
The best thing that you can say is “My love and prayers are with
you." Also, at the
appropriate time, you may want to share some Scripture with those who are
Share with us some appropriate
Scriptures that we can use to comfort those who are mourning over the death of
a loved one.
- Here are a few Scriptures that you can use to
help someone who is grieving.
in the sight of the LORD is the death of His saints" (Ps. 116:15).
righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart; devout men are taken
away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be
spared from evil. Those who walk
uprightly enter into peace; they find rest as they lie in death"
I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write: Blessed are the dead who die in
the Lord from now on.” “Yes,” says
the Spirit, “they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow
them” (Rev. 14:13).
THE PERSON FACE HIS OR HER FEELINGS.
- Tell the grieving person that it is O.K. to feel
anger, hurt, and pain and that God understands his feelings—because God
knows what it is like to experience grief.
I hope that this study
has helped you to better understand the grieving process.
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